Have you ever dated anyone that has children that you didn't help create? What was the experience like? How did it work out? Would you ever do it again? Do you think it makes a difference if BOTH parties have children?
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My chick was pregnant when we linked up.. didn’t expect Shit to go that way.. like I was fresh out a bad relationship.. so I was def not tryna do that.. now we’re engaged and ftk 😂 that baby was a daughter .. super smart .. but she is going to be baaaaad… and our second child is probably going to be worse.. he’s a whole little man.. 🤷🏽♂️ sometimes that shit works out.. sometimes you fucked up.. and the relationship with the kids is somehow more worth the experience even if it don’t work out.. kids something else.. fuck em.. but they really kinda remind you how to enjoy life like that again. It’s the little things.
My kids father had an 8 year old when I met him, and a son who was about to be born. I had a Hell of a time with his daughter growing up!! She was the most Manipulative brat I'd ever met. But when I finally broke up with him, I didn't cry for him, I cried cuz I felt like I'd never see Her again.... and I always felt like I was the only one who gave her Structure. Everyone else let her go whatever she wanted. Well, that 8 year old is getting married this summer. And I'm invited to the wedding and she wants me more than her dad's new girlfriend 🤣🤣🤣 AndHis son still gives me a hug whenever I see him.
For me this is a touchy subject. On one hand, I was raised by someone from a few months old. He liked my mom, and she had a baby. So he raised me. He never had any kids of his own! I think that takes a lot to do, to make someone else’s child your priority. On the other hand, Idk if I would be able to do it. Lol it sounds crazy after I just said what I said, but I also said “it takes a lot” & idk if I have that in me to fully just jump in and play step mom… maybe my answer to this will change once I have children on my own tho.
I often say that I will not date a man that has a child. This is mainly because I don’t want to share my time with a child and it’s mother. I’m selfish and I’m aware of this. I want my time with him to be just that, MINE. The other reason is that I want my first child to be OUR first child. However, I have attempted. I had an actual boyfriend that had a daughter when I was in college. And I’ve dated like 4 other guys with kids. I do not like it. The boyfriend- never saw his daughter because she lived like and hour (ish) away & the baby mom was super petty. So of course it didn’t really make a difference in the relationship. 3 of the others- the guys had issues with at least one of the mothers so there was always some sort of drama. Last one- his daughter wasn’t biologically his, she was the child of his ex gf but they were together for so long that he just continued fathering the child after they broke up. She was a teenage child and lives in Florida. So once I found out I thought it wouldn’t matter. Buuuut I still didn’t like the idea of having to share my time with her. Would I do it again? Doubt it.. if I meet a guy and he says he has kids, I let him know that I don’t date with men kids. So if it happened again, he would have to be pretty freaking amazing for me to overlook that.